Often times, prospective persons looking to get married would paint a mental picture of how their other partner should be like. Some would go ahead to make a list of mandatory specifics, such as the partner must be fair, tall, cheerful, must be a Russian, have black hairs and blue eyes, etc.
While there is absolutely nothing wrong with all of the listed checklist, you must, however, go beyond that if you want to experience a wonderful relationship that would last long.
Stop paying attention to all those superficial requirements. You have got to sit down and ask yourself what really do you need in the partner with whom you are going to spend your future with.
It is good to have these kinds of ideas but you need to stop and ask yourself – ‘what’s truly important?’ If you are truly looking for a life or marriage partner, here are the essentials of what to look out for.
Physical Looks and Attraction.
It is okay to have some level of expectations as to how attractive your partner to-be should look. Because your physical senses (sense of sight, touch, and smell) can’t be swept aside in determining your future. But our expectation shouldn’t be overshot. How?
A scenario where you list over 30 physical attributes you want in a person(she or he must have pointed nose, must be tall, must have oval jaws, must have wide hips…..) is a clear case of overshooting your expectations.
Physical attraction takes the last stage in a relationship meant to stand the test of time. It isn’t everything. Most of the physique attributes get worn out as we age.
As they say, beauty is within the gaze of the beholder. As such, looking for someone whose physique is acceptable by you should be what to look out for.
The ability to speak your heart with the future partner-to-be should be the core of what you would expect.
Can you both really sit to have heartfelt conversation at a stretch for hours without running out of things to say? Can you both really talk to each other? Effective communication is going to be your relationship-saving card, as you both ability to bear your minds most mutually would be your union saving grace.
Being patience to accommodate misunderstandings and tolerating each other is also a considerable part of what to check out for in a partner.
Ideology and beliefs
How aligned is your belief with that of your intending partner? Are you on the same page or do you share different spiritual views?
You might want to wave off the importance of having the same beliefs at the initial stage of your relationship. But mind you, a moment would come (after you both have invested emotionally on yourselves) when you either follow your partner’s path or otherwise.
Considering all these factors will help prepare you to know that partner whose future vision is in the same direction as yours.