Years ago, you married the one whom you loved with all your heart, and you thought at that moment when the knot was being tied as when everything in your life finally made sense, hoping to live happily ever after.
But as with other marriages, you aren’t along if the goodwill and feeling of a long last marriage were cut short. Research have shown that over fifty percent of couples whose marriage they wanted to last didn’t turn out as expected.
Did you both have some good times since when you both got wedded till now? The answer to that would be a definite YES. Then that is something to be happy about because as long as you both are still breathing, things could get better.
Just because you had issues and disagreements with your partner doesn’t mean you would bow to the harmful and destructive pressure of not making your union work- there’s no place for staying down
If your marriage isn’t where you want it to be, here are 3 ways you can get your marriage better.
Resist the urge of retaliating.
Resisting such urge can be quite difficult, especially if your spouse is myopic and isn’t empathic.
However, you have to decide what your priority is.
Do you want to build your marriage or get childish with your spouse and keep playing the revenge game?
I’m not saying you should be push-over who would be trampled upon by your spouse.
However, there is no need responding to every dumb and possibly immature thing your spouse does.
You need to be the one to carry on the mantle of maturity for the sake of improving your marriage.
Instead, work towards neglecting specific ignorable acts of yours while you call out your spouse on very weighty matters with the intention of ensuring he/she corrects the wrong and not to be insulting to them.
Let There be a Smart Reason For your actions.
Improving your marriage won’t happen without a well-thought plan, aim, and purpose.
Treat this next stage of your marriage as a phase that is so vital that you can’t afford to mess it up. See it as though you were told that something disastrous would happen to you if you don’t fix your home (which is true anyways as a failed marriage can be disastrous).
Once such thoughts of urgency occupy your mind, you won’t just sit back and wait for things to happen on their own, rather you would start making well-calculated steps to create fun experiences between you both.
Just before taking that next step, ask yourself if the end-result of such step would deepen the love between you both or cause further problems.
Cut off From bad influences.
There are persons, things, or behaviors that could kill the love in your marriage.
A simple task would be to take a deep reflection into how a suggestion from one or two persons or behavior lead to an incidence which caused problems in your home.
Then make a commitment to cut off from such influences.
The future of your marriage and a happy home depends on how honest you are in finding out all possible wrong influences and sincerity in cutting them off completely.